30 scripts for when you’re spiraling, overthinking, scared to speak up, or scared of pushing your partner away.
Scripts for gently breaking the ice...
For those hour-long, or 5-minute heart-to-hearts
Quit waiting for the "right" moment to happen
Open the door with clarity & confidence so you can show up intentionally
Relationship anxiety shows up in silence...
You're not arguing, but your mind is getting loud
Get out of your head & back into connection
Without apologizing or over-explaining yourself
For moments your partner is shutting down...
You tried to speak up only to be met with defensiveness
You leave saying "I shouldn't have said anything"
Instead, protect your voice without escalating the tension
Ground yourself before the conversation even begins
Close the conversation - because what happens after is just as important as what happened before
Understand what realistic progress looks like
Maybe you replay conversations. Overthink every tone shift.
Struggle to bring things up without fearing you’ll push them away.
And when your partner seems distant, or defensive, your brain fills in the gaps with worst-case scenarios.
That’s not you being “too much.” That’s relationship anxiety.
Before I recognized this was what I was dealing with, everything I said seemed to start a fight, or immediately invite defensiveness. I left most conversations saying, “I shouldn’t have said anything at all.”
I wished someone would hand me a script so I wouldn’t mess it up every time... But I never got those scripts, and for years I felt lost, like I was always the problem.
That’s why I wrote these scripts - because not every hard conversation need to create tension.
I'm Erin Davis, and as a clinical psychologist, I've helped hundreds of women navigate the complex world of relationship anxiety & OCD, so they can start showing up confidently during these difficult conversations.
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